Monday 2 November 2009

Tips to a Blissful Marriage

I was reading the Star this morning and there was a story (news) on how the Terengganu state government wants to ‘spice up sex life of newly-weds’. The divorce rate in that state has gone up and apparently the main contributing factors are Body Odour (I cannot imagine!), Humdrum Sex and Boring Pyjamas (including those worn-out t-shirts that we so dearly love that actually horrify our other-halves) . I don’t know what the divorce rate is in Brunei or the causes. But I think these should also be addressed in Brunei pre-marital course (kursus nikah).

So before you buy ‘Tongkat Ali’ or ‘Kacip fatimah’ these are a few ‘investment for life’ products that are vital in every marriage:
1. Deodorant and perfume;
2. Lingerie for women (I need to buy these too!); and
3. Decent pyjamas/sleepwear for men.

It was also suggested that taking a bath/shower together can also help in the S department.

Ok, Abang……!

Salaam.

Friday 30 October 2009

The Planet in Trouble

This morning I had the pleasure of attending a BEDB Forum entitled ‘The Economics of Climate Change in Southeast Asia’. I must admit, when I received the invitation I thought ‘oh dear, I will sleep..’. On the contrary, it was quite interesting and had me thinking that I should blog about this.

There was a presentation by the Asian Development bank (ADB) about how the climate has changed and caused the natural disasters. And that if the world continues its business as is, in about 50 years from now, the planet earth may no longer be a healthy planet to live in.

There was also a panel discussion on ‘Towards a Strategy on Climate Change: How Can Brunei Darussalam Contribute?’ Unfortunately, I couldn’t stay until the end of the discussion due to an office appointment. So, I didn’t actually get to hear from the experts what Brunei could and should do to help our planet which appears to be in great trouble.

Earlier on however, while listening to the remarks made by Dato T, which was as captivating as any of his previous ones, I began to list down what Brunei could do immediately without having to incur millions of dollars in cost. I would like to share this with you.

1. Public Education: Call it ‘Awareness’ or ‘Changing the Mindset’. This has to be done Pronto. This alone however will not have a big effect unless back by some policies because let’s face the fact, this does not appeal to our culture of ‘it’s –my-money-I-can-do-what-I-want-to’. So, by having some advertisement or one-off ‘awareness day’ (only) on the cost to the environment of diesel car or excessive electricity or excessive recyclable rubbish, my bet, will not change anyone’s mind let alone, centuries-old habits.

2. Policies: Now, before we talk about investing in solar power or wind power and what not, I think there are a number of policies that can actually make a difference.
First and foremost, look at the way we use the air-conditioner in the government offices! I tell you, in some departments frozen chicken can actually stay frozen for days if left in the rooms…well, ok I’m exaggerating, but some offices ARE cold. Now, can’t we have some sort of regulation to ‘cap’ the temperature? They do this in Japan, I was told.

What about the use of energy-saving light bulbs? Are these being used in all departments?
Before we ask the public to recycle, please can we practice what we preach? I do not recall ever seeing a recycling bin or box in any of the government building (at least in those I’ve been to). Well, they don’t have to be expensive or special bins, the normal ones with some pictured labels should be enough I think. I mean, if my children’s school can do it, I’m sure government departments can do it too, no?

Other ideas in my head (which may not easily implementable) include the encouragement for supermarkets to charge their plastic bags. Those plastic bags are not free in the first place. So let the consumers know how much they really cost.
Limit the number of parking spaces in government buildings, so people can be encouraged to come in twos.

And I can go on..

But the point of me writing this is that yes..we can contribute..We can start at home. (We do). You may say, ‘I alone won’t make a difference’ but if everyone contributes in his or her own little way, I’m sure it will.

Salaam.

Tuesday 8 September 2009

That's Life!

I know it's been a long while of me updating this blog. Sometimes I wish there are more than 24 hours in a day. I can tell you my life has never been busier..(Can I do another PhD?!). Busy at work and equally busy at home. A boss at work, an amah at home hehe. That's life!

Actually there is so much in my head that I'd love to write about. Maybe one of these days.

For now, I just want to wish all Muslim readers, Happy Fasting..let's embrace the last 10 nights of Ramadhan..and at the same time Selamat Menyambut Hari Raya..
A reminder to myself and readers, Spend wisely! Buy Needs, avoid Wants! In the words of one very distinguished religious Pehin, "Tidak Kedekut, Tidak Membazir" (Not miserly nor wasteful).

Salaam

Thursday 23 April 2009

Dewasa Bernegara Part 1

I’ve been back for more than 4 months but I still cannot accept how Bruneians, especially parents, actually live. They don’t seem to value their lives and their children’s. I’m referring to the use of safety belts in the cars of course. Everyday, everywhere I see children jumping up and down in the passenger seats. What is worse, I always see parents who actually drive with a child on his/her lap. Once, I actually saw a car swerved in the middle of a road and when I looked at the driver, it was a man holding a crying BABY!

It looks like the law on child-seat and safety belts fall on deaf ears.

Some people blame it on the implementation of the regulations. They say the police are not doing anything about it so why should we. I say: when accidents happen, those policemen won’t lose their lives but you and your children will.

Some people say the child-seat is expensive. I say: more expensive than the lives of your children?

Some other people say their children refuse to sit in the child-seat and/or wear safety-belts. Since they don’t want to upset their children then let them do as they wish. I say: You don’t love your children!

I’m ashamed and saddened by the way we Bruneians see and live life. After 25 years of independence, do we deserve to be called ‘Dewasa Bernegara’ when we do not even want to be responsible for our own lives and that of our children? When we still need other people to look after our lives? When we still embrace the old-skool mentality of law-breakers as opposed to law-abiders?

Oh dear.

Salaam.

Monday 13 April 2009

Islamic Banking in Brunei

This morning on the way to our children’s school we listened to ‘Pedoman’ (Nur Islam Channel) and the topic discussed was Islamic Banking. The good Ustaz was explaining the virtue of the system and so on and so forth, which reminded me of my fourth year Islamic Economics course that I took ages ago.

Although I can’t recall 95 percent of what I had learnt during my early twenty’s, the one thing that I still remember is that the system is based on ‘profit and loss sharing’ and the prohibition of ‘riba’ (interest).

Now, a few days ago, I bought a car and took a car loan from one of Brunei’s Islamic finance institutions. I am no expert in Islamic banking so I asked the loan officer to explain to me the difference between the car loan offered by them and those offered by the conventional banks. Well, his answer was simply we’re Islamic! Well, that didn’t answer my question, I pointed out to him that the monthly payment for the loan was exactly the same as the monthly payment that I would need to pay if I were to use a conventional bank. It was only a matter of preference!

I did not want to press the poor guy partly for the fear of rejection of my loan application and partly I knew it was not his fault in the first place. I actually asked the same question to a number of that particular bank’s staff whenever I visited it and I always got the same answer. It makes me wonder whether the bank has ever given its staff a training course on Islamic banking. I feel sorry if it hasn’t and I think it should.

Anyway, somebody please explain to me how Islam are the Islamic banks in Brunei? Frankly, I don’t see the difference between them and any of the conventional banks, in terms of their operation. They may not be involved in the financing of any of the unislamic activities such as gambling, entertainment etc. but I think in terms of profit and loss sharing- which is the basis of the system, they only share the former but never the latter, which to me makes them no better than any conventional bank.

So, please prove me wrong.

Salaam.

Monday 6 April 2009

Still Alive

Finally, the broadband is now up and running. Thanks for still dropping by. Will write soon (although the choice of topic is now quite limited).

Salaam.